Low self esteem is something that nearly every woman deals with at some time in her life and sometimes throughout the whole of her life. Not only does it cause you to believe lies about yourself, it often prevents you from even trying to improve your life because you don’t believe you deserve it, or are capable of doing it.
In some cases the problem stems from childhood, where unsupportive parents criticised every mistake you made and so you felt you were never good enough to reach their standards. Or it can start when you have a relationship break-up, or fail in an exam, or any other myriad of things that can go wrong in life. The main thing is not to let low self esteem stick around.
Here are 5 tips that can help to improve your self esteem.
- Meditate about yourself as a person. As you get to know the real you, you will realise that she is a person who deserves to have all the good things in life that you want. Love, finances, employment you are passionate about, friends who support you, good grades in that exam and so on. You will realise that none of these things are – nor should they be – dependent on who you are or how you look. You are a unique person who has something special to offer the world that no one else has.
- Realise that the world is intrinsically shallow. Your self esteem should not depend on your size, shape, colour or ability to attract members of the opposite sex. It should be based on those special traits of yours such as creativity and resilience.
- Life is always changing and evolving, but sometimes we don’t move with it. This can see a woman stuck in the past, whether that was her childhood, or if she’s a mature women, in the days of her youth. Recognise that those days are now past and it is the present and future that count most. If you have outdated values based on shame, throw them out. If you still believe that women are not as important as men, or that they can’t do the same things as men, get real. A woman can do anything she wants, these days.
- Learn to speak up, especially when you may feel timid or afraid. You may not be the only one to feel this way, but you can become the one who changes a situation by speaking up about it. When you do, others will agree with and support you.
- Learn to accept what you can’t change, especially if it is in the past. Don’t harbour bitterness or regret. Simply learn from the past and move on to make the future better in some way, even if it is simply to be at peace with who you are.